One of the questions I am most asked upon arriving in Singapore is
"So, have you gotten a Helper yet????"
A helper in Singapore is basically a maid/nanny/dog-walker/cook/errand runner and anything else that you want your "help" to do. The helpers or maids are typically Fillapina or Indonesian who come here on work visas to help the ex-pat families and wealthy Singaporeans. Their contracts are typically 2 years and they stay in Singapore for varying amounts of time, based on their family and financial situation back home.
The helpers come to Singapore, Hong Kong, and other large multi-national cities in Asia to work and all of the money they make is sent back to their family in their home country. They have no expenses, because you are responsible for them (buying food, toiletries, etc). The price tag is unbelievably cheap for the amount of work that can be entailed. Monthly salaries are about $500, with most working 6 days a week (all day), with Sundays and public holidays off.
The price tag seems unreasonably low, but apparently that money goes a long way in their home country and being a Helper in another country is actually a very good gig.
So, did I mention that your helper MUST live with you??
Under Singapore law, every condo must be equipped with a bomb shelter/safe room. This is the anal Singaporean gov't wanting their citizens safe in case of a natural disaster, terrorist attack, etc. I guess over time though, these bomb shelters have gotten another identity in that is where your maid "lives."
The bomb shelters are small reinforced rooms, with about enough room for a twin bed, with no ac or ventilation for that matter. They are typically located in the 2nd kitchen or wet kitchen as they are called here. It's the back room that also includes the laundry area, garbage shoot, back entrance and a small maids bathroom (toiliet, sink, shower combo).
EVERYONE here has a helper!!! It would be considered very odd if we didn't get one. The price tag is cheap and obviously having the extra set of hands around is helpful, especially because most husbands work and travel a lot. For most families that I know, the helper basically runs the household--cleans the condo daily, does all laundry/ironing, cooks every meal and babysits the kids when needed. (For example, am the only mom who gets my own kids on/off the bus at our condo, every other child has their helper there), crazy to me!
It is also difficult to get a reliable, regular cleaning service here or to find babysitters, because everyone has the live-in's who clean and the kids who are of babysitting age may live far away and also have a lot of school responsibilities. You are almost forced to get a live-in maid if you want any help at all. If you do find a cleaning service, that alone will cost you way more than your helper's salary each month.
After putting both kids in school full-time, I was really convinced that I did not need the help. What was I going to do all day? I am used to being the "Help" myself! I would love a cleaner and a babysitter, but I'm not needing anyone full-time?? And, I will always put my own kids on the bus :)
Additionally, I am quite hung up on having someone living with us, in a small condo, in a very small room. I think it could be awkward. They are taught to mind their own business and kind of disappear, but still. Everyone says though, you'll get over it quickly :)
I have always ran my own household and have never had much help, so am perplexed by this decision. It's the norm, so affordable and so helpful....people think I'm crazy that I haven't hired one already! Apparently, it is life changing!!!!!
So, I go back and forth, but for now the helper saga is "to-be-continued." A friend of mine here (a fellow Iowan) just found out they're moving back to the states in December and she is looking to find a good home for her helper that has been with them for 3 years. So, we shall see.......!!!!! Maybe it's a sign!! ;)